tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post3789606670407346292..comments2024-03-02T16:37:00.950-08:00Comments on Random Ramblings: On Lending My BooksJillianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07629286727932554109noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-39425242300027712362014-03-11T21:48:33.711-07:002014-03-11T21:48:33.711-07:00In short. If you have a book you really treasure...In short. If you have a book you really treasure and don't want it to disappear - DO NOT LEND IT OUT. Every single book I have lent out, bar none, has disappeared, never to be returned. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-39294847568560883852014-03-11T21:44:02.781-07:002014-03-11T21:44:02.781-07:00I'm like you, crack my books spine and it'...I'm like you, crack my books spine and it's like cracking my spine. Most people don't care about a book once you lend it to them. They are irresponsible and consider the book a gift. If you want to keep any book, DON'T LEND IT OUT.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-8004185814830155852014-03-11T21:39:39.551-07:002014-03-11T21:39:39.551-07:00And you won't get over it. That book was you...And you won't get over it. That book was yours and you were ripped off. Learn from this. NO matter what, don't lend any of your books out because 99% of people consider a lent book, a gift. It's as good as gone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-17823591077547389592014-03-11T21:37:39.251-07:002014-03-11T21:37:39.251-07:00I lent two of my books to my dentist and it's ...I lent two of my books to my dentist and it's now eight months and no books. Do not lend your books out if you care about the books. This is the enth time I've tried to be kind and sharing and been ripped off. <br /><br />This is positively the last time I am lending any of my books out to anyone. I'm tired of being taken advantage of.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-67373192802416780542010-08-25T17:09:58.181-07:002010-08-25T17:09:58.181-07:00naida - Fortunately, I haven't had anyone NOT ...naida - Fortunately, I haven't had anyone NOT return a borrowed book. That would be so awful!<br /><br />Allie - I try so very hard not to break a spine, and I think over the years I've managed to do so just fine. And the thing with the dog is just plain disrespectful, I don't get how some people can do that to other people's things! Nowadays I'm more upfront about what I expect. Sadly back in high school, I wasn't.Jillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07629286727932554109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-14572013147031766942010-08-25T15:51:42.877-07:002010-08-25T15:51:42.877-07:00Oh! This just broke my heart!
I treat my books ve...Oh! This just broke my heart!<br /><br />I treat my books very kindly. I rarely "break" a spine. I never dog-ear corners. I mean, my books get normal wear and tear, but I am very nice and gentle with them. I usually give people the benefit of the doubt, and I am up front about the condition I expect my books to be in when I get them back.<br /><br />About 8 months ago I lent a series of 4 books to my brother-in-law. A month after I gave them to him, we were having a party and he was eying more of my books. I told him he would get nothing else until mine were returned. That's when his wife says that he let their dog CHEW APART one of my books. I flipped out and told him I wanted my books back, pronto. And now I am still waiting. <br /><br />Needless to say, he will never be borrowing from me again.<br /><br />I am totally up front with people about what i expect. Don't be afraid to set a lot of rules, or just say no. I have started doing both and if people like I am a crazy book lady, so be it! :)Alliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18420476898132383974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-89808966694376778722010-08-25T14:54:43.210-07:002010-08-25T14:54:43.210-07:00oh no!!! thats awful! Sadly I've lent books an...oh no!!! thats awful! Sadly I've lent books and either never saw them again or got them back damaged. One of my favorites came back with oil stains on it. *ick* So I dont generally lend my books out anymore. Unless its a book I dont mind never seeing again.<br /><a href="http://thebookworm07.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">http://thebookworm07.blogspot.com/</a>The Bookwormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10217390642323530030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-6813016765397990652010-08-24T17:11:50.398-07:002010-08-24T17:11:50.398-07:00Raila - Yeah that's how how I am too now. Very...Raila - Yeah that's how how I am too now. Very sad about the Percy Jackson books!! :/<br /><br />Bibliophile - At least your family knows how to take care of your books.. I'm glad my mom and sister knows how to, and are probably worse than me. Haha. But wow, when I read what you said about your uncle.. *CRINGE!!!*<br /><br />Avid Reader - Gah! Me too :/ I guess for me though I don't really have double copies of one book so I don't have any other option but to either say no to them or to warn them to be careful of my book. But yeah, it can definitely be a stressful experience for us book lovers.Jillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07629286727932554109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-83420803114081797792010-08-24T15:09:16.389-07:002010-08-24T15:09:16.389-07:00That photo makes me a little bit nauseous. I keep ...That photo makes me a little bit nauseous. I keep specific copies of my favorite books to lend to others, (aka not the copy I've read and am attached to). That way I never lend books that I'm worried about getting back, it's too stressful.Melissa (Avid Reader)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02119628715475021774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-51066975459786260032010-08-24T02:43:00.696-07:002010-08-24T02:43:00.696-07:00I lend my books only to four people: my mother, my...I lend my books only to four people: my mother, my father, my brother and my best friend. All of them respect and love books and would never dream of mishandling them (except dad, who has been known to abuse paperbacks, so I only lend him hardcovers). I learned the hard way that not everyone respects books and stopped lending out my books to all and sundry after too many instances of not getting back books or receiving them back in an unnecessarily grungy condition. I don’t mind if people put a couple of creases in the spines of my paperbacks – not everyone has a strong enough grip to read a book without breaking the spine – but I will never understand how my uncle thought it was okay to roll around the cover of my pristine copy of the Lord of the Rings until it was limp as a rag and looked like he had tried to felt it like wool.Bibliophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10960676264710788969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-55769487219982257732010-08-24T01:47:07.589-07:002010-08-24T01:47:07.589-07:00I'm really open to tell the conditions of gett...I'm really open to tell the conditions of getting a book lent by me to the person who borrow it. And it's awful when you see it has been creased. My bestfriend almost hated me once because of this, haha. I lent her a book, and when she gave me back, the spine was very creased and the letters of the title of the book in gold (like Percy Jackson) were fading, like as if you rub it so much that it was desapearing. It had made me super sad that day when I received it back... Since then I've been so much more careful with them, and making it clear to the "borrowers" the way they have to read it not to crease the book or anything.Raílahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08833486254657877397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-76687634324556303842010-08-23T16:36:08.379-07:002010-08-23T16:36:08.379-07:00Sofie - The zipper in the bag sounds painful to me...Sofie - The zipper in the bag sounds painful to me I don't know why! lol But I'm sorry Friend # 8 had to mutilate your book that way! I also agree that sometimes it's not just about the book anymore, it's about the respect the person has for you. <br /><br />Ellie - I hate reading on the plane for fear of losing it because when I was a kid I did that and I just felt so darn guilty! And your friend who got all territorial is so creepy! That would have bothered me for sure!Jillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07629286727932554109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-15478669731807301582010-08-23T12:29:37.871-07:002010-08-23T12:29:37.871-07:00Ohhhhh, ouch! I'd have probably burst into te...Ohhhhh, ouch! I'd have probably burst into tears on the spot if someone had given me my book back in that state! I never lend my books outside my home any more, I must admit. Even that's not always safe! <br /><br />My stepdad borrowed one and left it on a plane. My friends have borrowed books which they then became extremely territorial over, claiming they weren't mine at all. And my sister once borrowed a brand new, unread book and bent every page round on itself as she was reading it... <br /><br />Now only my mum, stepdad and sister really borrow books - my stepdad has to replace anything he loses, and my sister has book dust jackets removed and dire warnings issued before she touches anything!Elliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07246472269477492583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-3166302124973238632010-08-23T11:14:25.475-07:002010-08-23T11:14:25.475-07:00For a long time I was just like you with the whole...For a long time I was just like you with the whole being like a library-thing, but again just like you I had a HORRIBLE experience that made me stop! I had these great books which I recommended to a lot of my friends but since none of them really buy books that much (yeah, I know I need to get some book-friends)I thought it was ok to let them loan it from me... It went well with the first 7 friends so my first fear of someone mutilating my books seemed to have passed, but then friend number 8 came a long... and it changed... everything! When I got my book back from her it was completely destroyed with pages torn out and the cover(paperback) having been shredded by the zipper in her bag! And she didn't even mention it! She was really a quite close friend at the time but this experience simply made me respect her a whole lot less because it shoved how much respect she really had for me, when she was able to conciously treat something she knew I loved like that.. And the worst thing is that it has totally made me paranoid about lending out books - today I only let my sister and to dearest friends borrow any of my books and this only happens after they have been given a lecture on the importance of protecting the books from any harm.... I know it sounds crazy but that it was the trauma of mutilated book will do to you...Sofiehttp://twitter.com/LaDanoisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-53032346393864680172010-08-23T09:56:50.954-07:002010-08-23T09:56:50.954-07:00Jackie - Wow, so she pretends the book's her a...Jackie - Wow, so she pretends the book's her and lends it to someone else?? Sorry about that! <br /><br />Nina - Oh no, notes for school are a different story especially if they're that important! I hope you get it back soon!Jillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07629286727932554109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-88906707805655715292010-08-23T09:52:51.635-07:002010-08-23T09:52:51.635-07:00OMG that would make me so mad! I only lend my book...OMG that would make me so mad! I only lend my books to my bff and older sisters. I do tell them time and time again that if they want to borrow something they should take care of it! I never experienced something that bad. But a former friend borrowed one of my notes, about 200 pages worth of notes, from last year. I never got it back! I emailed and texted her, but I never heard any thing back. I'm really angry, because those notes could be very important for this year! ;(Ninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11698452908549878264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-79597048316317471242010-08-23T09:48:11.097-07:002010-08-23T09:48:11.097-07:00I do not lend, just give the books away if to a fr...I do not lend, just give the books away if to a friend who likes to read the same author... In high school so very many years ago I lent a book out to a class mate and she swore and swore she would get it back to me... Never happened as come to find out later she lent the book out to a friend of hers and the book got ruined so after that never again! <br />I swap out on Paperback Swap now and unfortunately for me the books received in return for my Pristine, Clean, Undamaged books I have some that cannot understand how the person could justify sending them to someone else.. Then again I have some in brand new condition from other swappers that are older than the books I am swapping! Some people just do not respect books and some people like us treasure them more than we do our own health....<br /><br /><br />jackie ^_^Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02181111718630957098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-8711284584676686072010-08-23T09:42:38.950-07:002010-08-23T09:42:38.950-07:00FionaChan - I don't even have any means of con...FionaChan - I don't even have any means of contact with the girl who did this, but yes, it is a serious injury. It's also difficult for me to say no to others, and that's one thing I'm always trying to work on. But hey, at least you know better and think that maybe you should get her a new one.. right? ;) Mine just completely ignored the situation!Jillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07629286727932554109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-22636480639666799392010-08-23T09:23:42.919-07:002010-08-23T09:23:42.919-07:00Ouch! She should buy you a new copy! That's a ...Ouch! She should buy you a new copy! That's a really serious injury!<br /><br />I"m very picky and sensitive as well, but I'm terrible at rejecting people, so I make them promise they'll take care of my book lol.<br />I try not to share and tell about the books I have so they wouldn't make me their library, and I wouldnt have to reject others. D:<br /><br />Though, I am also very clumsy. D: I accidentally let some water ruined some part of my best friend's book D: D: Not very damaged but I feel very guilty, i might just buy her a new one... when the time is right. *avoids* sigh.Fi-chanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12753118506880244146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-82018318784908168972010-08-23T09:19:22.272-07:002010-08-23T09:19:22.272-07:00Juju - I guess it's not knowing what kind of r...Juju - I guess it's not knowing what kind of reader I'm lending my books to, too! <br /><br />Darlyn - I totally get what you mean. I mean, books here aren't as expensive but they CAN be definitely! And besides, any amount of money that you have spent counts a lot no matter what. <br /><br />Elie - Thanks. It <i>is</i> common courtesy I think to return something you borrowed in good condition, whether they're books or not. <br /><br />Laura - Haha I wish I was as organized you and actually document things like that. But the thing with the Narnia books is just plain horrible! How could she even say that while you're right there in front of her?<br /><br />Lori - You really just never know about people you're not used to lending your books too.. it's quite a dangerous risk LOL But sorry about your Time Traveler's Wife copy!<br /><br />E - LOL! "How would she like it if I broke her nose for her? XD" Perfect way to put it. <br /><br />readerreads - Yeah, I think I'd be really embarrassed too. I just don't know how she was able to give it back to me with a straight face! lol!<br /><br />Beth - MURDER would be the right word to describe it. Oh and ugh, lines and creases are so cringe worthy to me, I don't know why! My friends thinks I'm crazy for thinking that way of books, but that's just me. <br /><br />BookQuoter - I saw your post, and like the idea of a traveling book by the way. And yeah, I judge people too based on the way they return books to me. Haha.Jillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07629286727932554109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-86556190580715304082010-08-23T08:24:39.779-07:002010-08-23T08:24:39.779-07:00It is amazing that you have this post, as my post ...It is amazing that you have this post, as my post right now is about letting your books go. Haha!! Shows you how people are so different. Must be the age. I hardly keep my books. If I did, I wouldn't have room in my house. I always lend/let them go. To me, books are meant to be read, and if I have a very good book, it makes me sad to see it sitting on the shelf. <br /><br />I have had many experiences about badly returned books. That will never stop me though!! However, I have been known to judge people by how they returned their book to me!!!BookQuoterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13033467542826463255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-38790581082337003182010-08-23T08:05:31.739-07:002010-08-23T08:05:31.739-07:00Wow!!! She MURDERED that book!
I try to keep my bo...Wow!!! She MURDERED that book!<br />I try to keep my books in the same condition as I got them but I'm also like you, spreden' the love of reading :P<br /><br /> It was nothing as dramatic as THAT but I let my friend borrow a book that I had in perfect shape ( I know,I know nerd:P) and when I got it back the spine had about ten lines running through it! <br /><br /> I still let my friends borrow my books but now I spend about ten minutes lecturing them about how how my books are amazing and I want to get them back excactly the way I gave them LOL!Bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11056215109426412528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-15731865242275108502010-08-23T07:55:41.778-07:002010-08-23T07:55:41.778-07:00Why in God's green earth would she had you bac...Why in God's green earth would she had you back that, I'd be so embarassed, I'd go buy you a new one before I ever handed that back! I've had the same experience with DVDs so I no longer lend them to people because I very rarely get them back and when I do they're typically scratched and battered!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-26820608194126247702010-08-23T07:10:01.165-07:002010-08-23T07:10:01.165-07:00+JMJ+
Jillian, I suppose that teacher just wanted...+JMJ+<br /><br />Jillian, I suppose that teacher just wanted to demystify great literature and make her students feel more comfortable with their reading . . . but yeah, I am so glad I never had a teacher like her.<br /><br />Break my spines <i>for</i> me??? How would she like it if I broke her <i>nose</i> for her? XDEnbrethilielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03414765854670926854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3868395077988310106.post-90505845309949141102010-08-23T06:28:10.542-07:002010-08-23T06:28:10.542-07:00Bah! I bought a copy of The Time Traveler's W...Bah! I bought a copy of The Time Traveler's Wife last summer. I read it quickly and almost immediately sent it off to a friend. I had it for about 10 days. She's had it for over a year. In that time, she loaned it to someone else. I've had a few promises about her mailing it back "next week." I think I'm going to give up and buy myself a new copy (of course, as soon as I do, she'll probably send it back). I'm done loaning books outside the family.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06584618837353757502noreply@blogger.com